Episode 21 – Unselfing, letting go of your ego in the modern world (11 min)

Man suffers because he takes seriously what the Gods made for fun.

ALAN WATTS

Unselfing – what a term, isn’t it? I think there’s something about that prefix – “un”. Letting go, unlearning, unselfing.

Ours is the time of the ego – rampant, self-indulgent ego. Selfies, personalised feeds, personalised ads, personalised everything – almost all good products, but almost all terrible if left unchecked or unsupervised.

And isn’t that true for our times? We have let the idea of our “selves” go too far – far more than we ourselves can handle it. And that is impacting not just our public discourse and our politics, but also our relationships and our everyday lives as we speak.

However, we also live in the time of Understanding – a fully encompassing, discerning Understanding. And one core precursor to that Understanding is a detachment from the cobweb of the self, of the ego.

Which is where I bring to you the idea of “Unselfing”.

I came across this term in a very recent article a friend had shared with me. All the details to the article and the author are below in the show notes. It is a must read, just as this episode is a must listen. 😛

Until next time.

Peace out.

Unselfing | Iris Murdoch | The need for letting go of self obsession and narcissism | The Unlearning Playground podcast by Chetan Narang

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“Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.”

C. JoyBell C.

That, to me, sums up the utility of that age-old idea of letting go.

When I first came across the article I have talked about in this episode, the words immensely resonated with me. It was probably the first time ever that I heard the word unselfing, but the 2-3 minute read was quite enough to get the idea across. And also the overall utility of it. And let me tell you, it’s not a new idea either. Eastern philosophical traditions such as the Advaita Vedanta, Zen Buddhism, etc have focussed on nothing but, at the core of their teachings and messaging.

However, in the times we’re living in, the idea is more relevant than ever. Our modern modes of living – all the personalised feeds, all the selfies, all the personalised ads – are contributing to strengthening the ego, to strengthening the separation that is the basis of the ego.

And while the ego is an important mechanism of the functioning of the human organism, it is a terrible master. And that, more than anything, is an absolutely striking reality of our time. To quote the article (only a teaser):

"Somewhere along the way, in the century of the self, we forgot each other. We forgot this vast and wonder-filled universe, of which we are each but a tiny and transient wonder."
- Maria Popova (unselfing.social)

The central idea should not be something alien to someone who’s familiar with my work. Quite a number of my podcast episodes have been directed to this very same idea. For a refresher, here are a few episodes that you could check out as a sister content to this episode and this article I talked about here.

Well, enough said and done. I’d recommend you to get into the episode and give it a listen. A narration of the article is included in the episode itself, but if you wish to read it beforehand, here’s a link to it again – unselfing.social by Maria Popova

The entire episode is only an 11 minute listen. And it’s absolutely worth it.

I’ll see you in the playground.

To more unlearning and more unselfing.

Until next time.

Peace out.

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Episode 20 – How to cope with the low phases of Life | Depression help (17 min)

Trust me, faking to be strong is far worse than admitting to be weak.

virat kohli

Everyone goes through the highs and lows of life – no matter what social situation they’re in, no matter how much privilege others perceive in their life situation, life has its highs and lows for everyone.

By their very definition, the low phases of life are more difficult to navigate for us. Join me in this episode as I talk about a few general dos and don’ts during such times.

Of course, any specific advice has to be tailored to the individual situation at hand, but my aim here is to cover a few general principles that form the bedrock of a lot of subjective advice that everyone can benefit from.

I’ll see you in the playground.

Until next time.

Peace out.

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When Jimmy Kimmel, host of the popular late night American TV show Jimmy Kimmel Live, hosted Anthony Hopkins, he asked him a question that really stuck a chord with me. Anthony was close to 80 years old at the time, and Jimmy asked him if there is a single piece of advice he would like to share with the audience based on the sheer amount of time he has spent on the planet!

And Anthony Hopkins, very easily replied back saying, “Just keep going. Never give up.

How beautiful, right? And how powerful! Especially in terms of the topic we’re talking about in this episode – depression help and suicide prevention.

You see, all of us have low phases in our lives. If you’ve lived long enough, you know that to be true. All of our lives are akin to sine waves – they have ups and downs, crests and troughs. The low phases, by their very definition, are more difficult to navigate for all of us. And in the lowest of our low phases, the thought of simply ending it all and just giving up can seem to be a viable option – or worse yet, can seem to be the only option at times.

It is at these situations when we need to exercise our conscious choice to not act on such thoughts, and rather, just keep going. Because no matter what, the sine curve does come back up. It has to. And if you are at the lowest of your lows, it can’t get any worse – it’s going to only get better.

And even if you don’t believe that last bit, acting as if that’s the case is a much better choice than not.

In this episode of my podcast, I talk about three general dos and don’ts for depression help and suicide prevention. The core aim, if there is one, for this episode, is to propagate the idea that there is a better choice available than ending it all – there always is.

Having said all that I said in this episode and on this page, I still feel that any real help and advice we need in those tough low phases of our lives have to be specific to our particular life situations and not simply based out of a motivational quote or an inspiring piece of literature someone’s read. So, if you or anyone you know is in need of such advice, I know I can help. All the details for getting in touch with me personally, even if for a single one-time call and other nuances, are available on the talk-to-me page.

I think I’ll end this page with another one of those beautiful quotes that can be life-changing if you let them.

“You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.”

Cormac McCarthy, No Country for Old Men

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Episode 19 – Outgroup homogeneity effect | Cognitive biases #5 (8 min)

Know all the theories, master all the techniques.
But as you touch a human soul, be just another human soul.

Carl Jung

The human mind has a tendency to over-homogenize its outgroups. Statements and narratives that generalise and stereotype our outgroups seem to be more easily acceptable to us than we would expect from our rational selves.

Join me in this episode as I talk about the outgroup homogeneity bias. I know it’s a bit of a mouthful, but it is a cognitive bias that’s actually very fascinating once understood properly.

Like most of my episodes, I talk about how to go about understanding this cognitive bias in simple and easy-to-understand language. And I also cite examples from our everyday lives where this bias creeps in and holds us back from being the best we can be.

I had fun recording this episode.

I hope you have fun listening to it.

I’ll see you in the playground.

Until next time.

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“We don’t see the world as the world is, we see it as we are.”

Anais Nin

I always quote this powerful one liner whenever I have to make someone understand the importance of talking about and getting a grasp of their own biases. Our thoughts, our narratives, our perceptions, our biases – they form the basis of how the world seems to us. And if we aren’t aware of this truth, we start to assume that our world view is the correct world view.

As Daniel Kahneman talked about in his bestselling book Thinking, fast and slow – The human mind tends to work on the principle of WYSIATI (What you see is all there is). We do not know what we do not know. And hence, it’s important to understand and unlearn the falsities in what we do know.

While it is a bit of a mouthful, the outgroup homogeneity effect is one of those cognitive biases that is quite easy to understand. For starters, I have jotted down a few questions that might pop into an inquisitive reader’s mind about the same.

What is meant by outgroup?

A person’s outgroup is defined as a group the lies outside of the boundary of that person’s identity. For instance, for a woman brought up in a Hindu household in India, the groups ‘men’, ‘Christians’, ‘Italians’ are her outgroups.

What is outgroup homogeneity?

Outgroup homogeneity can be understood as the tendency of the human mind to see its outgroups as much more homogeneous than its ingroups. For instance, Americans may see themselves as a very diverse group, while at the same time considering a group of other nationals such as Australians or Indians as a very homogenous or similar group of people.

What causes outgroup homogeneity?

I think one of the chief causes for outgroup homogeneity can be attributed to the fact that it’s easy. It simplifies the overall narrative in a person’s mind if certain narratives about an outgroup are considered to be generally applicable to the entire group.

What are some examples of outgroup homogeneity?

Indians may see themselves as a very diverse group of individuals, while at the same time considering a group of other nationals such as Russians or French as a very homogenous or similar group of people.

In this episode of my podcast, The Unlearning Playground, I build on this bias of our minds using everyday life examples and an easy-to-understand language that facilitates easier absorption. That, I believe, is the hallmark of my podcast anyway.

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Episode 18 – 3 things that are wrong with religions today, and how we can solve them (22 min)

No one listened to the Buddha, that is why we have Buddhism.

unknown (maybe Jiddu krishnamurti)

In the modern world, there are three broad kinds of issues we face when it comes to perceiving and talking about religion, god and spirituality.

Join me as I walk you through these three problems and how we can go about solving them. After all, the greatest merit in pointing out problems lies in at least trying to put forward solutions too. That’s exactly what I’m doing in this episode.

The content here is not specific to any single religion, or even any specific train of thought. I claim that it is applicable to all the religions out there.

Is that too much to claim?
Only one way to find out.
Dig right in.

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There is a very powerful quote that you’ll find at multiple pages on this website. Here it is again:

If we ever hope to glimpse the true nature of the divine, we must unlearn everything we have been taught about god.

THE 14TH CENTURY CHRISTIAN MYSTICAL TREATISE, ‘THE CLOUD OF UNKNOWING’

A first look at this quote always leads to the interpretation that it is meant for people who are followers of one religion or the other. However, I would like to put forth the idea that this quote is not just true for theists, or believers. This quote is also equally true for the atheists, the agnostics and also for the ones who claim to say that they don’t know enough or even care enough to have a foot in the game.

All the above opinions about religions and God are incomplete.

And more than anything, that is the central theme of this episode of The Unlearning Playground Podcast.

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As a follow up to this episode, I’m sure my playlist on understanding God, religion and spirituality would definitely appeal to the keen listener.

Here you go.

Until next time.

Peace out.

Episode 17 – Unlearning the attachment to victimhood (12 min)

If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.

UNKNOWN

An old quote of mine reads, “More than being identified with the victim in your story, be identified with the observer of it. The latter is closer to the truth.

In this episode of The Unlearning Playground, I expand on what I mean when I say this.


Like most of my everyday-life advice episodes, this one is also centred around wisdom that’s applicable to and is pragmatically focussed on our day-to-day lives.

And you’ll also see why this is quite a necessary collective message for our times too, because if you look closely, we seem to be collectively rigged by this virus of victimhood.

If I was to summarise the need for this episode and the message therein, I would summarise it in this beautiful quote whose author I am unaware of, “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”


Tune in to the episode to know more and know better.

And please don’t forget to like, share and subscribe and leave a rating/review for the podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

I’ll see you in the playground.

Until next time.

Peace out.

If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you. Join Chetan Narang in this episode of his everyday life philosophy podcast The Unlearning Playground as he talks about how to overcome trauma and unlearn our attachment to victimhood.

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Hurt people hurt people.

If only we could realise how much this statement is true, and how much this applies not just to others but to our own lives as well!

Victimhood, like most things in life really, requires discernment of the highest order.

You see, all of us undergo some sort of trauma in our lives. This could be related to incidents or situations from our childhood, could be triggered by stuff we grew through as teenagers or adults, and so on. The ups and downs of life ensure that all of us see difficult times, that all of us are in situations when we are can’t help but feel like victims.

Now as we grow up and start to call ourselves mature adults, a major chunk of our work lies in outgrowing this trauma and the accompanying victimhood, a process you can very easily call healing.

And I know that some of us don’t like to use terms such as trauma and victimhood for our own life situations, but I still hope you’re getting the gist of what I’m trying to convey. Call it whatever you want, coming out of the identity that such situations build within us is a part of growing-up-101.

And this is especially important advice for our times. If you are at all active on social media these days, you can really see this pattern emerge out of the conversations that we have publicly these days – people on all sides of all possible dichotomies fighting it out to lay their claim on the trophy of who is the biggest victim there ever has been. Whether it is the conservatives or the liberals, the men or the women, the Hindus or the Muslims, the Indians or the Pakistanis, the gays or the straights – everyone has one hand on the “trophy” of victimhood these days.

Surely there could be victims on both sides of all of these dichotomies, of course!

But if the mere fact that you are on one side as opposed to the other is making you feel like a victim, therein lies your work, my fellow human!

Someone very wise once said, “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”

If you let it, these few words have the power to trigger a change in you that your future self will thank you for.

I hope this episode can do so too.

Get into it.

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Episode 16 – The framing effect | Pro-life vs Pro-choice? | The wage gap? | Cognitive biases #4 (22 min)

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you’ve built against it.

rumi

The framing effect is one of the easiest cognitive biases to understand and make sense of. Join me, Chetan Narang, in this episode of The Unlearning Playground podcast as I walk through an easy explanation for the same.

In addition to just talking about the framing effect, I talk about how it is very easily spotted in our modern day public discourse atmosphere via two frames or narratives that sway most of us enough to end up hating the other side of the argument.

One of the topics I’ve picked up is a very hot topic these days – the whole pro life vs pro choice debate, the anti abortion vs pro abortion fiasco. I try to walk through this very controversial topic all the while trying to drive home the point of looking at all sides of the topic rather than simply picking a side and dehumanising the other.

The other topic is another controversial one – Is there a wage gap between men and women in our society? Again, I explain how the framing effect can fog over our understanding of such simple yet very important topics of our times.

This episode is another one in my series of episodes about cognitive biases that I run on this podcast. You can check out the entire series here – Understanding human cognitive biases | Critical thinking

Understanding the framing effect cognitive bias. Learning how to think about the popular frames and narratives of our times - abortion, should you be pro life or pro choice? Is there a wage gap between men and women?

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When it comes to critical thinking, I think it is almost a necessary part of growing up to realise a few things about thoughts and how they work.

Not everything that pops into your head is true. The journey from a thought being a thought or an opinion to it being the truth is a journey we should take cautiously and with an open mind and an open heart. At the end of the day, it’s true that you don’t know what you don’t know.

Not everyone who disagrees with what you say is a radical, an extremist or an inhuman, wrongly-motivated individual. I’m not saying that that cannot be the case. I’m merely suggesting that that is not always the case. Listen to the other side too – they might be on to something you missed out.

We all think with the frames and narratives in our minds. Some of them are almost biological – such as the frames which help us avoid pain and injury, while some are social and cultural – such as the ones I talk about in the later half of this episode. It behoves anyone who wishes to think critically to become aware of the frames working under the hood in their own minds firstly, unlearn the attachments to their own favourite frames, and then help others do the same.

The key to learning and understanding the truths about Life, the universe and everything really is to remember to always keep an open mind and an open heart to new discoveries and understandings, because if one thing is certain about Life it is this – change is most definitely a constant.

The first step to letting go of our favourite frames is to become aware of them, and also of the movement whereby our own frames limit us at times.

Sometimes, all that’s needed to do so is an external trigger.

Allow this episode to be that trigger for you today.

That is, after all, its main purpose.

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Episode 15 – How to understand rebirth, karma & reincarnation – A simple, easy and potent nondual explanation (18 min)

No man ever steps in the same river twice. For it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.

HERACLITUS

For almost all of us, the way in which we perceive the idea of reincarnation, rebirth and karma – both believers as well as skeptics – is limited.

Join me, Chetan Narang, in this episode of The Unlearning Playground podcast to go into the depth of understanding these heavy terms. We unpack what these terms do not mean, what are the misconceptions surrounding them in our everyday interpretations of them, what we need to let go to actually digest the nectar of what they were always meant for.

I try to provide a nondual explanation of reincarnation, rebirth and karma that is in line with an understanding of Life that does not warrant any belief or faith or bias – all you need to do is to sit with these words in the most honest way possible, especially when they do not resonate with you. That is, after all, when we need honesty the most.

All said and done, let’s get into it.

I’ll see you in the playground.

Understanding karma and rebirth. A non dual explanation for reincarnation. What it really means to be an avatar.

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When it comes to reincarnation, like most spiritual matters, ideas on both sides of the coin – believers as well as skeptics – are limited, incomplete and based on misinterpretations.


Understanding these concepts is hard, not because they require us to learn a lot of new things. However, like most real wisdom, this understanding requires us to let go of our sticky ideas about them first. Or, speaking the language of this podcast, it requires us to unlearn our preconceived notions about them.

If what you hear in this episode is something you have never thought about before, make sure you listen to it multiple times, and makes sure you spend time to meditate on it. You know, just like someone who works out a whole lot but doesn’t get the maximum benefits from it because he does not rest/sleep enough, someone who reads or consumes a whole lot of philosophy but doesn’t find the time to meditate on it doesn’t really extract the juice out of it. I can’t stress it enough how important meditation is in really grasping matters such as these.

Life, at its very root, is a continuous process – a flux. It is more a verb than a noun. And this is true not just for Life in general. It it true for every one and every thing. In fact, that is the central message behind the quote I shared at the very start of this page. Allow me to repeat.

No man ever steps in the same river twice. For it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.

Heraclitus

This quote is one of the most potent ones you should definitely cement in your mind. While it is just very useful everyday life advice too, I would especially emphasise on the importance of this quote with respect to the topic at hand here.

To really grasp the understanding of reincarnation, one has to unlearn a whole lot of preconceived ideas. One big one amongst them is the idea of identifying with a fixed, static image – both for oneself and also for others. While it is a very useful image to help us navigate the world, it has its limitations. These limitations, by their very definition, create blindspots that we simply cannot see, unless we are receptive, open and honest enough if and when triggered externally.

Please allow this episode to be one such trigger.

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Episode 14 – Quotes and misinterpretations – How to be more practical with words? (17 min)

Whatever is said or done is interpreted always, and misinterpreted almost always.
Well, not almost always, but we do misinterpret others much more than we would want to be misinterpreted ourselves.
There is no substitute, after all, to honest conversations.

Chetan narang

So much of our waking lives revolve around words that we barely get time to think about what is the right relationship to have with our own words.

We interpret everything – all the quotes we read, all the videos we watch, all the podcasts we listen, all the conversations we have, all the social media posts we consume – all of it passes through the mental models engrained in our minds.

The path from these interpretations being just interpretations to them becoming truths should be one we carefully travel, especially when it matters.

It is not these quotes that are limited, it is our interpretations of them that limit the world we see.

Join myself, Chetan Narang, in Episode 14 of The Unlearning Playground Podcast where I talk about how quotes, words and our own interpretations of them can limit us and our understanding of our world.

Being more practical with words. Quotes, words and misinterpretations. Is "Do what feels right" the right advice?

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Yeah, quotes are great.
But have you ever caught yourself misinterpreting one to suit your own preconceived story?
That is the one of the most potent, generalised use of quotes in my opinion –
to take you to the realisation that you (mis)interpret words all the time.

We all have stories in our minds.

Stories about how the people around us are, stories about how people are in general, stories about how certain ‘kind’ of people are, stories about how the world is, and so on and on …

These stories help us in navigating the world, and do a good job about it.

A lot of times however, our own favourite and cherished stories limit us from seeing things as they actually are. Everything that reaches us passes through, and is coloured by these stories. No matter how brilliant the quote I just came across is – if the mental model it triggered in my mind is not based on truth, I would not be able to squeeze the nectar out of it.

This happens all the time around us doesn’t it?

I, for one, have noticed this happen a lot on social media – I would see someone share a quote or a clip of some wise words; and the interpretation of those words that made them worthy of a share for this person was just one that confirmed their already preconceived notions. Someone who is politically left-leaning would be moved by the same quotes that move a politically right-leaning person, and both of them would happily share the same words in their circles; assuming that the words they are sharing mean what they think they mean, and what they have always thought they mean.

All of this, like most truths that matter, is easier to see in others than it is to see in oneself. Because it is not comfortable to see your own thoughts being proven incomplete and biased. It’s like that powerful quote by Robert Pirsig in his beautiful book, Lila. Yes, the man wrote a book other than the Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance. The quote goes like this:

It’s always the other person who’s ‘deluded.’ Or ourselves in the past. Ourselves in the present are never ‘deluded.’ Delusions can be held by whole groups of people, as long as we’re not a part of that group. If we’re a member then the delusion becomes a ‘minority opinion.’

Robert Pirsig, Lila

All said and done, I hope this creates a little curiosity in you to check out your own interpretations (and misinterpretations) of quotes. Catch yourself the next time you hear yourself say things like

“Yeah, this is nothing new.”
“Yeah, I know this already.”
“Yeah, so what?”

I’m not saying that these responses are always uncalled for. But be aware enough to see when you’re actually understanding something, and when you’re just substituting it by something you already ‘know’.

If whatever you read/hear immediately falls into buckets like

right/wrong
good/bad
agreed/disagreed

You might be missing out on what’s the Truth.

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Episode 13 – How important is money? (22 min)

I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.

Jim carrey

Money is not everything but it is something.  While most of us agree on this basic statement, we still do not quite understand what is the right relationship to have with money.

How much money is too much money?
How much money is enough?
What is the right way to think about money?

These are some questions that remain perpetually unanswered for a lot of us, in the busy lives that we lead these days.

With the employee performance appraisal season right around the corner in the Indian economic cycle, money is definitely one of the hot topics flowing around. And there wouldn’t be a shortage of questions and concerns that pop up in our minds about it.

Am I getting paid enough?
Should I switch jobs?
Will that promotion make it all worth it?
Should I look out to get a higher salary or benefits?

All of these are important questions. And there are better answers to them than “It depends.” or “It’s all relative”.

We just need to open our eyes and see things the way they are, not the way we think they are. Let’s spend some time doing just that.
Tune right in.

I’ll see you in the playground.

what is the right way to think about money? hustle culture, salary, passion and jobs

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Episode 12 – The dream of Life, the utility of philosophy and true spirituality, engineering a utopia (24 min)

This is the secret of dreams—that we do not dream, but rather we are dreamt.

Carl Gustav Jung

A meditative discourse on spirituality, philosophy and its utility in our everyday lives.

I walk through an understanding of the root of eastern philosophy – The Advaita Vedanta or Nonduality – via the metaphor of dreams.

And then I talk about how the realisations that follow this understanding, can actually lead to a better future for ourselves, for humanity and for Life at large.

Did I do any justice to the big claims?
Only one way to find out.
Tune right in.

I’ll see you in the playground.

how to understand dreams, the utility of spirituality, the understanding of advaita vedanta, true religion and spirituality, engineering a utopia

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The Unlearning Playground Podcast, a popular philosophy and spirituality podcast by Chetan Narang, on Apple Podcasts

The Unlearning Playground Podcast, a popular philosophy and spirituality podcast by Chetan Narang on Spotify

The Unlearning Playground Podcast, a popular philosophy and spirituality podcast by Chetan Narang, on Stitcher

The Unlearning Playground Podcast, a popular philosophy and spirituality podcast by Chetan Narang on Amazon Music

The Unlearning Playground Podcast, a popular philosophy and spirituality podcast by Chetan Narang, on Google Podcasts

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